Have you ever experienced a bad argument with your husband, especially over something very silly? You thought to yourself ,“You were right, and he was wrong?” I have, and it was all over a loaf of bread. Yep, you read that right, bread!
It was when we first started dating and he was a single dad raising three teenage boys and pinching pennies. I was the one who knew everything about nutrition as well as what the boys and soon to be husband needed in their diet. We had gone to a discount bread store; you know the ones where you can get six loaves of bread for $4.00. But six loaves of white bread wasn’t healthy for these young men; they needed wheat bread! It was $1.00 more, and my Jeff wouldn’t buy it. We got into an intense “knock down, drag out” argument while in the store. Let me clarify, I got into an argument; Jeff just wanted to let it go. But of course inside myself my “PRIDE” wanted to be right; I just wanted to hear Jeff say I was right too! It was more important than the fact that I was causing a scene and embarrassing the both of us too!
“When pride comes, then comes disgrace,
but with humility comes wisdom.” (Proverbs 11:2)
I know now that the argument wasn’t worth it, neither was the embarrassment we both experienced, but I couldn’t see that at the time. I wasn’t being respectful to my soon to be husband. Neither was I reflecting a Christ-like personality to those around me. My goodness, “What sort of witness was I being to cashiers and customers in the store that day?”
Now, my family eats wheat bread, but not because of beating my husband over the head with it, but because I waited, taught, and prayed.
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word
stirs up anger.” (Proverbs 15:1)
Bread might be something so simple in relation to what’s going on in your marriage, or even your daily life but I want to encourage you today that no matter what you are facing, “God’s Word” is consistent! Set down your pride and run to God for the wisdom and think back to this writing, “Don’t forget the bread!”
Building strong marriages together,
The following are a few verses to further encourage you:
I will break down your stubborn pride and make the sky above you like iron and the ground beneath you like bronze. (Leviticus 26:19)
In his pride the wicked man does not seek him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God. (Psalm 10:4)
Where there is strife, there is pride, but wisdom is found in those who take advice. (Proverbs 13:10)
The end of a matter is better than its beginning, and patience is better than pride. (Ecclesiastes 7:8)